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We could fix the 'Fathers, flown' syndrome

Date published: 1/22/2008

We could fix the 'Fathers, flown' syndrome

Kudos for the Jan. 18 editorial titled "Fathers, flown." This is a serious and not just local problem (look at Washington), and it can be fixed in a generation with two comprehensive actions.

At birth, provide each fatherless child and its mother nurturing guidance from agencies, personal mentors, and the community.

This would include child care, health care, preschool, after-school tutoring, and loving supervision through high school. At the same time, the mother would be provided with help for education, employment, nurturing, and hope, as well as birth control information.

The community and school system would provide all middle-school girls extensive programs fostering self-esteem and self-respect, a guide to becoming healthy adults, and mentors to follow them through school.

These programs would include detailed health, reproductive, and sexual information, and discussions on men, boys, and relationships. Above all, they would include extensive truthful information on birth control.

I personally know two teachers (one is my daughter) in different states who lead these programs with great success.

Would this cost money? Of course, but it would result in monetary savings in a generation of functioning adults, lessening the need for extra police, incarceration, and welfare. It would ultimately strengthen the economy. Sadly, I fear it will never happen.

Judith Murray Locust Grove



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Date published: 1/22/2008


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Al, (posted by Kristen , Jan. 22, 2008 8:25 pm)   
Very good! can I volunteer? I have some sharp pruning sheers...

Solution (posted by Al , Jan. 22, 2008 9:16 am)   
We could cut off a nut for each child a man refuses to support. At least that way we could be sure he'd be limited to two.

Where's the fix (posted by dvlmn073 , Jan. 22, 2008 8:08 am)   
The actual fix to this problem would be to instill in young men that if you are going to father a child, you need to be a father to a child. Young women do not get themselves pregnant, yet people will judge them poorly for having multiple children by different (or the same) men, but noone extends that same contempt for the men who father multiple children. We don't need the Gov't to replace fathers, we need fathers to replace deadbeats and irresponsible jerks.

If it walks like a duct and quacks like a duck... (posted by jdsdad , Jan. 22, 2008 7:28 am)   
This is exactly another typical social program. I have kids in school right now and they already have sex ed and citizenship classes. It's up to the parents to do the rest. Most of these "mothers" keep having kids just to get more money from the gov. I say stop paying them to have kids and they will stop having kids they can't afford.

Nice idea Ms. Murray. I don't think people really understand (posted by GOUSA , Jan. 22, 2008 3:37 am)   
the cost of out-of-wedlock births because the costs don't fall under any one expenditure. So when you propose this type of program for X-$, they say, "Oh, that is too much" and "Typical social programs!" They can't see past their noses. Let me also add that people should stop thinking it's cute that their kids are dating at age 11. This isn't Ozzie & Harriet show and it never was.

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